Why Do So Many Marriages Fail?

Why Do So Many Marriages Fail?

Many reasons such as incompatibility, lack of commitment, adultery, domestic violence, and more, can make marriages fail, but the following are the important factors that make people actually take action to end the failed marriage by filing for a divorce:

  1. Individualism
  2. Social Acceptance Of Divorce
  3. Economic Opportunities For Women
  4. Easy Exit

According to the last available statistics, the American marriage rate is 5.1 per 1,000 population, while the divorce rate is 2.3 per 1,000 population. The inference is that the divorce rate in America, relative to the marriage rate, is about 45%. Now here are the main reasons for the increased divorce rate:

Individualism

Like any other global citizen, Americans are focused on their individual happiness, self-fulfillment, and personal liberty. The belief that the rights, interests, and liberty of an individual are paramount was triggered by literacy, technology, prosperity, availability of jobs, and gender equality set in gradually – and made the traditional attitudes towards marriage obsolete.

Over time, more and more Americans started believing that self-sacrifice or conforming to societal values has lesser value when compared to individual choices, and that marriage must not be restrictive to personal growth. Such thoughts are based on the philosophy of individualism – individualists desire independence and do not consider obedience as important. The University of Nevada has found that individualistic societies like ours are very tolerant of divorce.

So, individualism is one of the trends that embolden a spouse to place his/her happiness above everything else, and file a divorce petition once he/she is convinced that his/her marriage has failed.

Social Acceptance Of Divorce

Once upon a time, American couples preferred to hang on to an unhappy marriage rather than think of divorce because divorce laws required a spouse to prove marital misconduct in the courts and there was a huge social stigma attached to divorce. Divorcing spouses, especially women, were made to feel a sense of shame and personal failure, and perhaps even looked down upon. If they ended the marriage, they were made to feel irresponsible – so, many married couples stayed put and sacrificed their personal happiness for the sake of societal happiness.

Gradually, as literacy, financial freedom, and individualism came to the forefront, the social stigma attached to divorce started fading. Many couples discovered that divorce was a better option than remaining in an unhappy marriage. The trend snowballed when divorce laws were made simpler and it became easy to get a divorce.

Economic Opportunities For Women

Rising literacy rates, an economic boom, gender equality, and technological advancements in America spurred job creation for both men and women. Educated and skilled women no longer had to depend on their husbands to bring home the gravy. Women started becoming financially independent and self-reliant – along with becoming individualistic in a social environment that had started normalizing divorce. They were no longer afraid of societal shame or of starting a career post divorce. If they had children, child care was available, and employed women had the money to pay.

Easy Exit

Long before the no-fault divorce laws were introduced, a spouse had to allege marital misconduct on the part of the other spouse and conclusively prove it in the courts – not an easy task. This kind of divorce system, referred to as at-fault divorce law, involved a painfully long and unpleasant process with a lot of acrimony, deceit, and counter-allegations flying between the couple, along with unnecessary drama in the courts. As the number of divorce petitions started increasing, the judicial system was strained because a whole lot of dirty laundry was washed in public.

This called for a reform of divorce laws, and so no-fault divorce laws were introduced. Now all a spouse had to do was to state irreconcilable differences, incompatibility, or irretrievable breakdown of the marriage as grounds for divorce. There was no more need to prove marital misconduct in the courts. Spouses just had to fulfill the state’s residency laws and wait it out through the cooling-off period. At one time, it would take years to complete a divorce, but the no-fault divorce law reduced it to a few months (for low-conflict cases)! Today, all states allow spouses to file a no-fault divorce petition.

Naturally, this easy legal exit from an unhappy or a failed marriage has led to an increase in the number of divorce petitions.

These four factors have led to a rise in the number of divorces in our country.

Protect Your Money And Your Family

We remove fear associated with divorce, protect your money & maximize time with your kids!

We're here to help. Let's determine your best options.

Call Us 24//7 at 801-685-9999 to Speak with a Live Representative

Utah Divorce FAQs
Top 100 Divorce Blog
What Clients Are Saying…
BrownLaw icon
Excellent
Brown Family Law
4.8
Based on 912 reviews
Nathaniel Garrabrandt and Brown Family Law is where I send people who are seeking Divorce. Highly professional and compassionate. Thank you!
I cannot say enough good about my experience with Brown Family Law. Ray Hingson and paralegal Carren did an excellent job with my case. I will definitely use this firm again for any legal issues.
I have worked with Andrew Christensen many times in a variety of situations. I am very impressed with his friendly demeanor in a difficult situation. I would highly recommend him to you without any reservations.
Highly recommend Brown Family Law. Life is hard, divorce is harder, and Andrew Christensen is your guy to help you through to the other side.
When you’re going through a tough time and need legal help, this firm isn’t just a one-person operation. It’s a team of attorneys who work together to support you every step of the way. So you’re not just getting a lawyer, you’re getting a legal team behind you.

Navigating the legal system was a steep learning curve for me, and my situation was fairly complex. What stood out about this law firm was the way multiple attorneys collaborated to address my case. It wasn’t just one person working in isolation, but a team supporting each other to find the best path forward. That kind of collective effort is a real strength, especially in hard out complex situations like mine.

There was one issue I felt should have had a different outcome with the court. When I brought it up, the team responded in a very professional and respectful manner, which I truly appreciated. It came to my understanding that the legal system sometimes works in a way that is distant than I thought. This was presented to me in a way that someone outside of the legal system could understand.

In my experience, this firm takes the time to not only assist you, but also help you understand why things are happening. That made a big difference for me, and it’s something that really sets them apart.
Response from the owner:David, thank you for our conversation and taking the time to leave this review.
My experience with Jennifer and Brown Family Law was nothing short of amazing. From the very beginning of my initial consultation all the through until my case was settled, I was well taken care of and updated every step of the way. I felt like my team genuinely cared about the outcome of my case, which was refreshing. You get what you pay for, and Brown Family was worth every penny. To say I highly recommend this group is an understatement.
Response from the owner:Thank you very much, Steve. Glad Jennifer took good care of you.
Andrew Christensen was a great divorce lawyer. He is very experienced, professional, and was great to work with during this difficult process.
Response from the owner:Casey, thank you and so glad Andrew served you well.
Made my divorce quick and painless. 5 months ago I was feeling very overwhelmed. There was legal issues with protective orders, my ex wife had taken my kids to another country without my consent, I was in way over my head. After speaking with brown law they calmed my nerves took over my case. A few video calls and 5 months later my divorce is finalized with a fair outcome for everyone. It was easy and stress fee, it didn’t even feel like I was going through a divorce.
Response from the owner:Thank you so much, Brian. Sorry you went through all of that, but glad we were able to help.
Jennifer was excellent! She was always responsive and kept me updated on my case. while the billing was a little different from what I expected, her expertise was invaluable. I highly recommend her. And I appreciate everything she's done for me and may case.
Response from the owner:Jennifer, thank you and glad Jennifer was able to help you and kept you updated.
Going through the divorce process can be overwhelming, exhausting and emotionally draining.
I did my homework to find the perfect lawyer to represent me knowing I could have peace of mind throughout the process.
Leilani Whitmer and her paralegal Idania did not disappoint. Their professionalism and dedication to my case was outstanding and fair.
Leilani had just had surgery a few days before mediation and showed up on crutches and ready to go. That’s dedication!!!
I am highly recommending them to anyone looking to feel at ease during a difficult time.
Response from the owner:Lesia, glad Leilani and Dani took such good care of you.
yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7

Categories